James 3:14-17 (New Living Translation)
“ But if you are bitterly jealous and there is selfish ambition in your heart, don’t cover up the truth with boasting and lying. For jealousy and selfishness are not God’s kind of wisdom. Such things are earthly, unspiritual, and demonic. For wherever there is jealousy and selfish ambition, there you will find disorder and evil of every kind.”
“But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere. “
Jezebel does not know how to love unconditionally. They have conditions, motives and deception interwoven in their twisted love. Their love is selfish and self centered for their own agenda. They love you when you allow them to control you.
Their love is filled with self seeking motives with strings attached. They use love to manipulate and control you.
It is easy to fall prey to their flattery, charm and lies. A person who is manipulated by these emotions will find that they will spend a lot of time and energy trying to please the Jezebels in their life. They will become weary and hurt because they will never be able to please or give Jezebel enough. They then become charmers for attention and returned love. They sell themselves for Jezebels love.
“The charmed charms the charmer.” What a twisted relationship that becomes. Trapped in bondage for Jezebel’s love controlled by charm, flattery, lies and manipulation.
Beware! Jezebels love with a possessive love. Their love will suffocate you. In return for their love you must give them total devotion, 24/7. They want to dominate you, your time and your attention. They are very demanding and if they find you giving someone else your attention they will turn on you with a vengeance. If you refuse to allow them to ‘possess’ or dominate you be prepared!
To the same degree of love they have for you will be the same degree of hate, wrath and vengeance. Their thoughts will be consumed with how they feel you rejected them and wrath will burn within them until they feel satisfied with hurting you or destroying you.
A true man or woman of God operates in humility and accountability not control, manipulation and intimidation.
Jezebels are boastful! They always want to tell you about all their accomplishments, how they get ‘stuck’ making all the decisions, how they had to raise the children alone, or how they get ‘stuck’ doing all the work…….
Don’t bother to tell them about yourself! They are not interested in your life or your accomplishments. They are only focused upon themselves. Trust me….. they are not hearing a thing you say. They are only trying to find a place to interrupt you so they can talk about themselves.
They talk incessantly about themselves and when they are done, hours later, they will leave or hang up the phone without asking if you would like to share anything.
The conversation is always about themselves, their feelings, disappointments, hurts, dreams, wants and desires.
Listen; even if you try to talk they will interrupt you. They always have a more interesting story, or what they have to share is more important. I’m telling you, Jezebel’s mind is always on them.
Another trait of Jezebel is they are very critical. They thrive on criticizing others which is to elevate themselves in their own mind.
You want to test a Jezebel in this area? Give praise over someone else’s accomplishments. This will cause them to react with criticism and how they can do it better or they will tell a story that reveals they had it worse. Praise for someone else can almost make Jezebel foam at the mouth!
They cannot stand for another person to get recognition or praise, especially if it is a person they despise or is jealous of. To them it would mean lowering themselves beneath another. They are superior in their minds!
Remember, Jezebels cannot stand to be wronged, embarrassed or out done. They need recognition, titles, power, authority and control.
They also, are NEVER wrong!!! They are always right and they feel they know more than anyone else. They will even tell you they are always right! They feel they are the only ones who can make the right decisions.
One final comment on Jezebel is that some like to ‘quietly’ be in control. They will manipulate with kindness and flattery. But if you fail to fall under their seduction you will see the true Jezebel come to surface. They do have a temper and it will come forth as a powerful tool to inflict fear all for the sake of intimidating you for control.
They know that if they can push you to a place where you live in fear of them, they ‘own’ your emotions and they will control you.
People become suicidal when they feel trapped by Jezebel. They do not know how to get free. They live in such fear that they feel they can never get away from Jezebel except by death. They also, feel they have nothing more to give.
Jezebel’s will suck the life out of you. They are never satisfied and never happy because they want more and more. It seems the more you give the more they want.
People soon realize that they are not truly loved they only exist to please Jezebel. They soon lose their joy, their desire to live and wonder where God is in all this. They feel they can no longer go on because their life has no meaning and no purpose therefore they can’t see a future or hope.
Prayer and God’s word is the way out.
I challenge you to pray and seek the Holy Spirit to reveal Jezebels in your life and how to be free from their control.
Jezebel can be anywhere…..your home, your office or your church.We must love the person and hate the sin. Prayer is the key! Use it